When I was a little girl, before age eight, I used to beg my parents to put on the Carpenters record. I only wanted to hear one song- Hurting Each Other. I used to listen to that song and just weep and weep. I used to ask my parents, “Why are they hurting each other?”
My parents would not always oblige to my desires because it confused them to see one so young crying. I would promise that if they played the song this time there would be no tears. But the song was too much. The water would flow freely from my eyes. Eventually, I was cut off from the song.
One of my favourite scriptures, and (I really like the Byrds song), “To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven:..
“A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;(Eccl. 3:1, 4, ).
So why do we fear the weeping? Why do we not let freely out what is bursting inside? The Lord knew when he sent us to mortality that there would be a time to weep. For one who was blessed with the gift of weeping it was a new idea that people would hold in tears. You physically can’t cry forever. You will reach an end. When the snot and tears are all blended into one mess, you will stop and feel the calming effect.
It is strange that tears are the physical expression for intense joy and profound sorrow. The same physical reaction for the two extremes in emotion. Perhaps that is why an eternal perfected being like God can still weep. I think weeping is an eternal truth because it is so intertwined with love. Without caring deeply situations would have no effect.
I want to be a safe place where friends can cry. Why would we even hide our tears from each other? Did Mary and Martha hide their tears from Jesus when the death of their brother hurt them so? Did He, our Exemplar, try and hide the tears back? Maybe we need to stop hiding our tears and start sharing them. Then we may feel the healing power that comes through releasing them and letting others help dry them up. I do look forward to the day when the Savior shall wipe away all tears. God shall wipe away all [the] tears from [our] eyes. ( Revelation 7:17)
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