Don’t Believe Everything You Think!

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I have many beautiful friends. This magnificant woman refreshed my memory of truths I had forgotten. This post is a team effort from Erin Allen and myself.

“Sometimes home schooling is really hard. And sometimes there’s a nasty, mean voice that gets inside my head that whispers that it’s not going well, that I can’t do this, that I’m going to fail, and points out all the “evidence” that proves that this is just too much for me. Those thoughts were spiraling me down to a pretty dark place this morning. Then my inspired friend came over, took over the kids for a bit, and allowed me to go into my room, close the door and pray and read my scriptures. I cried and cried to Heavenly Father (literally, with tears and snot.) Then I opened up my scriptures to Ether 6:5-12. In this part of the Book of Mormon, the Jaradites are in the middle of what must have felt like an impossible endeavor… and here are the verses that jumped out at me and sunk right in:

“And it came to pass that when they were buried in the deep there was no water that could hurt them, their vessels being tight like unto a dish, and also they were tight like unto the ark of Noah; therefore when they were encompassed about by many waters they did cry unto the Lord, and he did bring them forth again upon the top of the waters.

And it came to pass that the wind did never cease to blow towards the promised land while they were upon the waters; and thus they were driven forth before the wind.

And they did sing praises unto the Lord; yea, the brother of Jared did sing praises unto the Lord, and he did thank and praise the Lord all the day long; and when the night came, they did not cease to praise the Lord.

And thus they were driven forth; and no monster of the sea could break them, neither whale that could mar them; and they did have light continually, whether it was above the water or under the water.”

I love these verses and I love how symbolic their story is to my own life, thousands of years later. There is so much that applies to me right now. I too can be protected and feel joy in the middle of trials, (whether they are external or internal trials) as I focus my thoughts on gratitude… being THANKFUL! By focusing my thoughts on the Savior! By choosing my thoughts and the things I focus on, I can protect myself with TRUTH. The truth is, I KNOW homeschooling is right for our family this year. Being “tight like unto a dish” = not letting darkness in. I can be tight and protected as I don’t indulge the negative, dark, self-criticizing thoughts that would sink me down. I love that these verses also point out that all the furious winds and waves that feel like they are out to drown me, are actually the very things that are bringing me toward the “promised land.” MY promised land. My place of peace, joy and fulfillment.

I love the scriptures and how they remind me of truth. I am grateful for prayer. I’m amazed yet again of how powerful these simple things are in helping me to feel the Truth again.

Thanks for letting me share! I love my friends and community dearly…. that means each of you.”

I loved the part that reads “the furious winds and waves that feel like they are out to drown me, are actually the very things that are bringing me toward the “promised land.” When you don’t realize the elements in your story for what they truly are it’s hard to express gratitude or feel joy But if you see, with eyes open and the scales start to fall, you will start to recognize the truth of all things. The truth can make you free to feel the beauty in all that life brings. I know that I too have felt the winds that were destroying my ship and making life uncomfortable. But as I dropped to my knees and asked God what I needed to change and what I needed to accept. He guided my path and allowed me to distinguish between the two. Then when I realized that I am the captain of my life I began to choose my circumstances, I started to see how without the winds there was no way I could get to the marvelous destination. There is a peace that comes by knowing you are doing what is right for you and your family. Then when the opposition comes… and it will because that is part of why we are here. You too can feel the peace the Savior promised to send… My peace I give you, not as the world giveth give I unto you… The world would say peace is the absence of a storm… and the Lord says I will comfort you while the storm rages around and allow you to see the necessity of the winds.

After I read my friends post I was reminded of another woman who taught me earlier that week. Here is what she shared.

Music and the Spoken Word” and she shared with me the following message from the August 13 th broadcast: “We’ve all heard the wise advice “Don’t believe everything you hear.” But there’s also wisdom in a similar idea: “Don’t believe everything you think,” because some false information may come from our own thoughts. We may think things about ourselves and others that simply are not true—thoughts like “I can never change” or “I can’t forgive this person” or “I’m not good enough” or “She doesn’t like me.” The danger of such thoughts is that they don’t stay thoughts for long. They can quickly harden into beliefs that affect the way we see the world. Soon those beliefs become actions that can limit our progress, damage our relationships, and hinder our happiness. So how do we prevent this? One approach is to treat our thoughts the way we would treat other information we might encounter. We can ask ourselves, “Is it true? What evidence do I have? Does it square with other things I already know? Is there another explanation?” We can listen to our conscience and to trusted loved ones. It takes courage and humility to evaluate our thoughts in this way because it might mean admitting that we were wrong! Is it time to debunk some myths in your own mind? A good place to start might be those negative or degrading thoughts—about yourself and about others. You can change, and so can others. You can forgive, and so can others. People might like you more than you think. And you might like them more than you think. Give your beliefs and actions the firm foundation of true, uplifting, charitable thoughts, and remember, don’t believe everything you think.”

I am thankful for the strong woman in my life. Who enrich my life and help create a fulfilling loving environment. I love their honesty, wisdom, and authenticity. I hope you liked their words as much as I did.

 

I just read this and thought of you too… its from a talk a girl gave in stake conference….
“Music and the Spoken Word” and he
shared with me the following message from the August 13 th broadcast:

“We’ve all heard the wise advice “Don’t believe everything you hear.” But there’s also wisdom
in a similar idea: “Don’t believe everything you think,” because some false information may
come from our own thoughts. We may think things about ourselves and others that simply are
not true—thoughts like “I can never change” or “I can’t forgive this person” or “I’m not good
enough” or “She doesn’t like me.” The danger of such thoughts is that they don’t stay thoughts
for long. They can quickly harden into beliefs that affect the way we see the world. Soon those
beliefs become actions that can limit our progress, damage our relationships, and hinder our
happiness.

So how do we prevent this? One approach is to treat our thoughts the way we would treat
other information we might encounter. We can ask ourselves, “Is it true? What evidence do I
have? Does it square with other things I already know? Is there another explanation?” We can
listen to our conscience and to trusted loved ones. It takes courage and humility to evaluate our
thoughts in this way, because it might mean admitting that we were wrong!

Is it time to debunk some myths in your own mind? A good place to start might be those
negative or degrading thoughts—about yourself and about others. You can change, and so can
others. You can forgive, and so can others. People might like you more than you think. And you
might like them more than you think. Give your beliefs and actions the firm foundation of true,
uplifting, charitable thoughts, and remember, don’t believe everything you think.”

I just read this and thought of you too… its from a talk a girl gave in stake conference….
“Music and the Spoken Word” and he
shared with me the following message from the August 13 th broadcast:

“We’ve all heard the wise advice “Don’t believe everything you hear.” But there’s also wisdom
in a similar idea: “Don’t believe everything you think,” because some false information may
come from our own thoughts. We may think things about ourselves and others that simply are
not true—thoughts like “I can never change” or “I can’t forgive this person” or “I’m not good
enough” or “She doesn’t like me.” The danger of such thoughts is that they don’t stay thoughts
for long. They can quickly harden into beliefs that affect the way we see the world. Soon those
beliefs become actions that can limit our progress, damage our relationships, and hinder our
happiness.

So how do we prevent this? One approach is to treat our thoughts the way we would treat
other information we might encounter. We can ask ourselves, “Is it true? What evidence do I
have? Does it square with other things I already know? Is there another explanation?” We can
listen to our conscience and to trusted loved ones. It takes courage and humility to evaluate our
thoughts in this way, because it might mean admitting that we were wrong!

Is it time to debunk some myths in your own mind? A good place to start might be those
negative or degrading thoughts—about yourself and about others. You can change, and so can
others. You can forgive, and so can others. People might like you more than you think. And you
might like them more than you think. Give your beliefs and actions the firm foundation of true,
uplifting, charitable thoughts, and remember, don’t believe everything you think.”

I just read this and thought of you too… its from a talk a girl gave in stake conference….
“Music and the Spoken Word” and he
shared with me the following message from the August 13 th broadcast:

“We’ve all heard the wise advice “Don’t believe everything you hear.” But there’s also wisdom
in a similar idea: “Don’t believe everything you think,” because some false information may
come from our own thoughts. We may think things about ourselves and others that simply are
not true—thoughts like “I can never change” or “I can’t forgive this person” or “I’m not good
enough” or “She doesn’t like me.” The danger of such thoughts is that they don’t stay thoughts
for long. They can quickly harden into beliefs that affect the way we see the world. Soon those
beliefs become actions that can limit our progress, damage our relationships, and hinder our
happiness.

So how do we prevent this? One approach is to treat our thoughts the way we would treat
other information we might encounter. We can ask ourselves, “Is it true? What evidence do I
have? Does it square with other things I already know? Is there another explanation?” We can
listen to our conscience and to trusted loved ones. It takes courage and humility to evaluate our
thoughts in this way, because it might mean admitting that we were wrong!

Is it time to debunk some myths in your own mind? A good place to start might be those
negative or degrading thoughts—about yourself and about others. You can change, and so can
others. You can forgive, and so can others. People might like you more than you think. And you
might like them more than you think. Give your beliefs and actions the firm foundation of true,
uplifting, charitable thoughts, and remember, don’t believe everything you think.”

 

I just read this and thought of you too… its from a talk a girl gave in stake conference….
“Music and the Spoken Word” and he
shared with me the following message from the August 13 th broadcast:

“We’ve all heard the wise advice “Don’t believe everything you hear.” But there’s also wisdom
in a similar idea: “Don’t believe everything you think,” because some false information may
come from our own thoughts. We may think things about ourselves and others that simply are
not true—thoughts like “I can never change” or “I can’t forgive this person” or “I’m not good
enough” or “She doesn’t like me.” The danger of such thoughts is that they don’t stay thoughts
for long. They can quickly harden into beliefs that affect the way we see the world. Soon those
beliefs become actions that can limit our progress, damage our relationships, and hinder our
happiness.

So how do we prevent this? One approach is to treat our thoughts the way we would treat
other information we might encounter. We can ask ourselves, “Is it true? What evidence do I
have? Does it square with other things I already know? Is there another explanation?” We can
listen to our conscience and to trusted loved ones. It takes courage and humility to evaluate our
thoughts in this way, because it might mean admitting that we were wrong!

Is it time to debunk some myths in your own mind? A good place to start might be those
negative or degrading thoughts—about yourself and about others. You can change, and so can
others. You can forgive, and so can others. People might like you more than you think. And you
might like them more than you think. Give your beliefs and actions the firm foundation of true,
uplifting, charitable thoughts, and remember, don’t believe everything you think.”

I just read this and thought of you too… its from a talk a girl gave in stake conference….
“Music and the Spoken Word” and he
shared with me the following message from the August 13 th broadcast:

“We’ve all heard the wise advice “Don’t believe everything you hear.” But there’s also wisdom
in a similar idea: “Don’t believe everything you think,” because some false information may
come from our own thoughts. We may think things about ourselves and others that simply are
not true—thoughts like “I can never change” or “I can’t forgive this person” or “I’m not good
enough” or “She doesn’t like me.” The danger of such thoughts is that they don’t stay thoughts
for long. They can quickly harden into beliefs that affect the way we see the world. Soon those
beliefs become actions that can limit our progress, damage our relationships, and hinder our
happiness.

So how do we prevent this? One approach is to treat our thoughts the way we would treat
other information we might encounter. We can ask ourselves, “Is it true? What evidence do I
have? Does it square with other things I already know? Is there another explanation?” We can
listen to our conscience and to trusted loved ones. It takes courage and humility to evaluate our
thoughts in this way, because it might mean admitting that we were wrong!

Is it time to debunk some myths in your own mind? A good place to start might be those
negative or degrading thoughts—about yourself and about others. You can change, and so can
others. You can forgive, and so can others. People might like you more than you think. And you
might like them more than you think. Give your beliefs and actions the firm foundation of true,
uplifting, charitable thoughts, and remember, don’t believe everything you think.”

I just read this and thought of you too… its from a talk a girl gave in stake conference….
“Music and the Spoken Word” and he
shared with me the following message from the August 13 th broadcast:

“We’ve all heard the wise advice “Don’t believe everything you hear.” But there’s also wisdom
in a similar idea: “Don’t believe everything you think,” because some false information may
come from our own thoughts. We may think things about ourselves and others that simply are
not true—thoughts like “I can never change” or “I can’t forgive this person” or “I’m not good
enough” or “She doesn’t like me.” The danger of such thoughts is that they don’t stay thoughts
for long. They can quickly harden into beliefs that affect the way we see the world. Soon those
beliefs become actions that can limit our progress, damage our relationships, and hinder our
happiness.

So how do we prevent this? One approach is to treat our thoughts the way we would treat
other information we might encounter. We can ask ourselves, “Is it true? What evidence do I
have? Does it square with other things I already know? Is there another explanation?” We can
listen to our conscience and to trusted loved ones. It takes courage and humility to evaluate our
thoughts in this way, because it might mean admitting that we were wrong!

Is it time to debunk some myths in your own mind? A good place to start might be those
negative or degrading thoughts—about yourself and about others. You can change, and so can
others. You can forgive, and so can others. People might like you more than you think. And you
might like them more than you think. Give your beliefs and actions the firm foundation of true,
uplifting, charitable thoughts, and remember, don’t believe everything you think.”

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Don’t Believe Everything You Think!

Sincerity and Honesty

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Taking my children to the Louvre this summer was a magnificent experience. It is so amazing to see what artists can create and envision in the raw elements. They were initially excited to see the Mona Lisa, but after discovering more of the treasures that surrounded them they loved taking in all the richness and beauty of everything.

In a book written by Benjamin and Meredith Martinez, they describe the rarest and most costly marble, white Carrara. As a Sculptor, it was very desirable to work with this expensive material.

I quote from the authors, “Sculpting in marble was neither fast nor easy. In addition to innate talent, it required both careful analysis and tedious, backbreaking work. The artist would have to study the block of marble to determine its essential nature. He would then need to discover the direction of the grain and ascertain the presence of any flaws. He had to make careful and precise plans and drawings which were in accord with the structure of the marble itself. Then, with consummate care, he would begin to chip off the superfluous marble, layer by layer, until he revealed the form he had envisioned.

“Any mistake could be disastrous. If the sculptor went against the grain he could crack the marble; if he struck a blow with too much force he could mash the crystals beneath the surface, creating holes and ruining the sculpture. This seldom happened with the greatest of sculptors, who labored with infinite care and supreme sensitivity. Those with lesser talent and little patience, however, would occasionally be confronted with such a disaster. Rather than admit their blunder and lose their commission, some would resort to subterfuge.

“Soft, white wax, skillfully applied, could usually disguise the damage. In outward appearance the sculpture appeared to be flawless and the defect was seldom discovered until well after the work had been accepted and the commission paid. As the practice became more common, patrons of the arts became more discerning. They refused to accept a piece of marble statuary until after a careful examination had been made to ensure that it was undamaged and contained no wax-covered flaws. The highest standard of excellence for works of white Carrara marble came to include the distinction, ‘sine cere,’ meaning ‘without wax.’

“Eventually these two words merged to become a single word, ‘sincere,’ meaning ‘pure, unadulterated, whole, intact, uninjured.’ When the word was used to refer to marble works of art, the emphasis was on the fundamental wholeness of the statue, not just on its superficial or outward appearance.

The statue was expected to be good, not just to look good.

As of yet I have no talent in sculpting nor do I plan in the near future to develop that talent. But the parallel I can draw about being sincere is amazing.

Sometimes in my efforts to accomplish great tasks I lose my patience, rush the process, do not examine the grain, apply too much pressure and cracks begin to form. I am learning that true peace and joy come in the honest analysis of the creation and process.

Often I have not noticed or been aware of the cracks in the sculpture. Quietly, analyzing, examining, planning and evaluating can help me return to the Master who can quietly critique my technique and help me become as skilled as He.

I know that to create a sculpture using precious materials takes patience, study, and planning. I need to be teachable and always aware of the obstacles that could make my project insincere.  If I can admit the cracks and realize the preciousness of the work I am doing, then I will be able to create sincere sculptures.

 

Benjamin Martinez and Meredith Martinez, “The Primacy of Principles,” in 10 Principles of Leadership Power (1992).

Sincerity and Honesty